Boyslut - A Memoir and Manifesto Book (Paperback)

RELEASE DATE - 9 MAY 2024

A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essays―part memoir, part manifesto―that explore the author’s coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame As a boy,

Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. He sometimes imagined other people naked, too, and without an explanation as to why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him a little imagination was nothing to be ashamed of, over the years, society told him otherwise.

Boyslut is a memoir-manifesto in which Zane articulates that, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex that they have and the sexualities that they inhabit. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives, and through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.

From stories of play sessions with a neighbor at age six to the first explorations of Zane’s bisexuality in college, as well as sex parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny―and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

"In a world where sexuality and masculinity are often misunderstood and conflated, Zachary Zane manages to use his own unique experiences to knock down stigmas and expand what it means to have a healthy relationship with sex. His honest approach is a welcome reprieve from the messages of our youth and his self-exploration not only encourages but enables us to do our own."
ALLISON RASKIN, podcaster and New York Times bestselling author

"Zachary Zane is a FABULOUS queer writer and thinker who's doing the Lord's work by promoting bi-visibility, teaching the children about polyamory, and helping the LGBTQ+ community--and really, all people--learn how to become their best authentic selves."
BILLY PORTER, actor, singer, and author

"Zachary Zane is one of the best sex writers working today. He has a unique ability to balance humour with a deep appreciation for the vulnerability and humanity of his subjects. And reading about Zane's own sexual adventures is like getting invited to Sunday brunch by your wittiest, sluttiest, funniest friend and getting to listen to him recount his crazy weekend."
DAN SAVAGE, sex columnist and New York Times bestselling author